David R Goodall also known as Richard.
Person Centred Counsellor
AnxietyAngerDepressionand 2 more: Adoption counselling for adults, Separation and divorce
Topic
Anxiety in men
Anxiety in men often hides in plain sight — as irritability, broken sleep, a tight chest on the commute, or the low background hum of bracing for something. Many men live with it for years before they name it.
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This page is a short, honest guide: what anxiety actually looks like in men, when it's worth talking to someone, and how to find a male therapist who'll take it seriously without making a big deal of it.
What anxiety looks like in men
Anxiety doesn't always announce itself as worry. In men it more often shows up sideways — as a short fuse, sleep that won't come, a racing heart in meetings, or a constant feeling that you're falling behind. A lot of men describe it as 'wired but tired' or 'fine on the outside, never quite settled on the inside'.
It can be tied to something specific — work pressure, health worries, becoming a father, a relationship under strain — or it can have no obvious trigger at all. Both are normal. Neither means you're weak or broken.
When it's worth talking to someone
There's no threshold you need to cross before therapy 'counts'. A useful rule of thumb: if anxiety has been most days for most weeks, or it's quietly shrinking the life you actually want — fewer plans, more avoiding, shorter temper at home — that's a fair reason to talk to someone.
- You're sleeping badly more nights than not.
- You're using alcohol, work or your phone to take the edge off.
- You're snapping at people you love and feeling worse afterwards.
- You're avoiding things — calls, social plans, decisions — that you used to handle.
- You've had a panic episode, or you're scared of having one.
What working with a male therapist can offer
A good male therapist isn't a guru and isn't there to give you a pep talk. They're someone you can be honest with about the stuff you usually hold — the pressure to provide, the embarrassment about feeling anxious in the first place, the parts of being a man that don't get talked about. For a lot of men, that shared frame makes the first few sessions easier.
The work itself varies. Some therapists are practical and tools-focused — breathing, exposure, cognitive techniques. Others go slower and look at where the anxiety is rooted: childhood, relationships, identity. Both can work. The fit matters more than the label.
Getting started
You don't need to have it figured out before you reach out — that's the work. Browse the therapists below, read a couple of profiles that feel right, and book a first conversation. Most therapists offer a low-cost or free intro call so you can see how it lands.
Male therapists who work with anxiety
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John Buckley
Therapist and Coach (Online)
AnxietySocial anxietyAddictionand 2 more: Relationships, Work-related stress
Kevin Talbott
Counsellor
Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD)BurnoutAbuseand 2 more: Domestic abuse, Panic attacks
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Frequently asked questions
Stress is usually tied to a specific load — a deadline, a hard week — and eases when the load does. Anxiety tends to stay even when there's no obvious reason for it, and shows up in your body: tight chest, broken sleep, racing thoughts. Both are worth taking seriously; therapy can help with either.
No. Plenty of men work through anxiety with talking therapy alone. Some find medication useful alongside therapy, especially if anxiety is severe. That's a conversation for your GP — a therapist can support you either way.
There's no fixed timeline. Some men feel a shift in 6–8 sessions; others work with a therapist for a year or more. A good therapist will be honest with you about what's realistic for what you're bringing.
Only if it's useful. Some approaches go there quickly, others don't go there at all. You're allowed to ask a therapist how they work before you book — it's a fair question, not a rude one.