Matthew Willner

I work with men who feel stuck in patterns and feelings they can't shake alone. Sometimes that looks like tension you can’t switch off, stress about a relationship that’s barely holding on, or a harsh inner voice that never lets up. You don’t need to know exactly what’s wrong before we start. I’m an LCSW and Certified IFS therapist offering virtual sessions in New York, New Jersey, and Colorado. I see individual men and couples, including gay, bi, queer, and non-monogamous men. Before becoming a therapist, I spent a decade in business, government, and nonprofits.

My style is direct and engaged. I ask hard questions, and I won’t treat a complicated situation like a simple fix. I don’t see stoicism or self-reliance as defects to correct, but as traits that developed for self-protection. Using Internal Family Systems (IFS), we get curious about the parts of you that shut down, worry, or criticize, instead of trying to force them out. You don’t have to arrive ready to be vulnerable. You just have to show up.

Reach out by email or phone and we’ll set up a free 15-minute call. You can tell me what’s going on, ask about fees or out-of-network reimbursement, and get a sense of how I work. If we’re a good fit, we’ll book a first session. No pressure either way.